Falling for a Friend and Feeling Cheated

Alas, I too have played this part. I'll not bore you by repeating it, except to say that I seem to keep playing the same part in many different stories. As yet, the count is merely three, but you may safely expect there to be more. I am glad that they are all happy (and in most cases engaged) and I would never trade that for anything.

I find that the strange part about that feeling of having been cheated, is feeling guilty about feeling cheated. I feel as though I am being selfish by wanting to be the one who makes her happy. I know, and each of them knows, that we could never make a relationship work, for various reasons. Since I apparently cannot be the one to give any of them the happiness I truly feel they deserve, I would rather that someone else do so than that they be lonely. But I still feel cheated.

Wishing for things that cannot be is a very painful experience. One must always be very careful about wishing. Many things we claim to wish for are things that we truly would not want if they were to happen. Many others are things that cannot happen, and wishing will only bring us to focus on what we cannot have, rather than on what blessings we do have. It is better to wish for simple things, perhaps to wish that you might blow out all the candles, or to wish for the bigger piece of the wishbone.